3 Ways To Find Out If Your Date Is A Sex Offender


For many people, dating can be a great experience.  Whether you are dating online on a free dating site or using social networking sites to find people, you should always make sure to do some basic checking on the people you meet.  Some people would argue that this is sound advice whether you are dating people or not.  News Flashsex offenders use the internet and often do not have any restrictions which would prevent them from being on a dating site! Here are three ways to find out if the person you just chatted with on that dating site you just joined is a registered sex offender:


1 – Search for your date’s name in a State Sex Offender Registry

If you are considering going on a date with someone, asking for his or her full name is not off limits.  This is especially true if you met the person through an online dating site like plenty of fish (POF.com), Match.com or OKcupid.com.

Once you have the person’s name, use an online sex offender database to find out if that person is listed in a state sexual offender registry.  Each state keeps a list of sex offenders and many will tell you where they live.

2 – Do A Background Search So Broad That You Could Find Out If Your Date Was A Sex Offender Even If He Lived On An Indian Reservation.

Once you let someone into your life, things can get pretty serious.  You don’t want to wait until after you are engaged or married to find out who someone really is.  The truth is, people have all sorts of things hidden in their past.  You may find that your date has been arrested before.  You may discover that there is a warrant for your boyfriend’s arrest out there.  You may find out that your spouse to be is a registered sex offender.  You may want to look at your fiancee’s credit report.  Often, a credit report can give you all sort’s of important information.  If you are going to live with this person one day, the fact that he or she may have bad credit is important to know!

Many companies provide background checks.  Because there are so many options, it is difficult to discuss all of your options in a single webpage.



3- Ask Your Date If He Is A Sex Offender! (or if she is a sex offender)

Sometimes, you have to do the most obvious thing to get the answers you are looking for.  If you are worried about the background of your date or someone that you are keeping company with, ask that person the questions you want answers to.  You can do so in a joking manner: “You aren’t a sex offender on a sex offender registry are you?”  Every now and again, the answer may not be so funny.  Date rape is on the rise.  According to the Center for Women and Families:

  • Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted.(U.S. Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey)
  • 1 out of 6 women have been victims of rape or attempted rape in their lifetime. (National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention.)
  • 38% of women who have been raped were ages 14-17. (PSU)
  • 60% of rapes/sexual assaults are not reported to the police. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  • 73% of sexual assaults were committed by a non-stranger. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  • 38% of rapists are a friend of acquaintance to the victim. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  • 92% of homeless women have experienced severe physical and or/sexual violence in their lifetime. (PCAR)
  • Up to 38% of women identify sexual abuse as a reason for leaving their home. (PCAR)

Statistics on Males

  • An estimated 92,700 men are forcibly raped each year in the United States. (Tjadn & Thoemmes, 1998)
  • 3% of American men have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. (National Institute of Justice & Centers for Disease Control & Prevention.)
  • In 2003, 1 in every 10 rape victims was male. (U.S. Department of Justice)

Statistics on Children

  • 1 out of 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted by the time they are 18 years old. (Darkness to Light)
  • 15% of sexual assault and rape victims are under age 12 and 44% are under age 18. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  • 93% of juvenile sexual assault victims know their attacker. (U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics)
  • Girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault. (RAINN)

SOURCE: CENTER FOR WOMEN & FAMILIES WEBSITE: http://www.cwfefc.org/svfacts.html

These statistics are eye opening.  The fact is, you should be checking people out, even if that person is not a “stranger” to you.  Don’t wait until you find out that the person you met on a dating site is a stalker or the person you met on a dating site is crazy.

Want to find out if someone is a sex offender?  Check out the Sex Offender locator resources below.

Sex Offender Search Sites By STATE:

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It can be difficult to understand certain legal concepts.  This page can provide free law resources to those who are seeking help.

Criminal Law Resources:

WHAT IS BAIL? – This comprehensive article discusses what bail is and concepts that one may find helpful in understanding how a court decides what the bail set should be.

WHAT IS A RESTRAINING ORDER? – This article discusses what a restraining order is and why one might need one, as well as ways that a restraining order can be violated.

People Search Resources:

WHAT IS A BACKGROUND CHECK? – This article discusses what a background check is and what goes into deciding what kind of background search is necessary for a given situation.


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A New York Criminal Defense Lawyer describes steps that loved ones and family members of someone arrested in New York City should take to help get that person home quicker after he or she has been arrested. These items will help one track someone from arrest to arraignment. See our full video that describes the process from arrest to arraignment for more information.  The information contained on this site is written by a criminal lawyer and is not intended to create an attorney-client relationship, but rather, to give information to individuals who are trying to find people.

How Do You Find People? Arrest Inquiry:

Are you looking for someone?  Are you asking “how can I find people” who were arrested?  This site was created by a criminal lawyer to help answer the question: How do you find people who were arrested?  If you are looking to find people, click the below links for information that can help you find people arrested in New York City.

How Do You Get A Lawyer?:

How Do You Get A Lawyer when you are arrested in New York?  Each person arrested in New York City gets a free attorney consultation with a government provided criminal lawyer.   These lawyers are not all from the Legal Aid Society.  Many of these lawyers are new york city defense attorneys who are appointed by the court.  These new york city criminal defense lawyers are paid by the government.  There are a number of criminal lawyers in nyc that are on the panel that is appointed to these types of cases.  Despite what many believe, many of these lawyers are top criminal attorneys.


Click Below to go to the relevant pages (written by a private criminal lawyer):


New York Arraignment Process (What happens when you’re arrested in NYC)


How To Find An Inmate In New York

How Do I Find My Next Court Date? Who Arrested?

How Do I Find Out If Someone Has A Bail?

How Do I Find Out What Someone’s Bail Is?

How Do I Find Out What Someone Was Charged With?

How Do I Find Out What I Was Charged With?



Where Can I Hire A Lawyer To Represent Myself Or A Loved One In A Criminal Case?

Where Can I hire A Lawyer to Represent me in a Domestic Violence Case?

How Do I get my criminal record sealed in New York?

Arraignment Clerk Information – Places to Call in NYC if Someone was Arrested or to find out if someone was arrested in New York City.  Wondering how to find someone arrested in New York City? This is a good starting point. Even if someone is in Central Booking or a county detention facility in New York City after being arrested, the Arraignment Clerk might be able to help!

New York City County List

New York City has five (5) boroughs.  Each borough in New York City is a different county.  Each county has a different court.  When people are arrested in a certain borough or county, they go to the jail in that county.  If you are looking for someone arrested in a specific borough in New York City, you need to know the names of the counties in New York City.  Below is a list of counties in New York that will help you figure out what county detention facility someone arrested may be in.

This being the case, you don’t have to be a criminal lawyer to figure out where to look for someone:

So if you think someone is in Central Booking in the Bronx, call the arraignment clerk in Bronx County.

If you think someone is in Central Booking in Brookyn, call the arraignment clerk in Kings County.

If you think someone is in Central Booking in Queens, call the arraignment clerk in Queens County.

If you think someone is in Central Booking in Manhattan, call the arraignment clerk in New York County.

If you think someone is in Central Booking in Staten Island, call the arraignment clerk in Richmond County.

If you know for sure someone has been arrested in New York City and you want to find someone arrested in New York City, click the link on the top of the page to get the number to the arraignment clerk in the county in which the person was arrested.



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